How Can We Love Others,If We Don’t Love Ourselves?

When so many of us search for the perfect relationship and wonder why they cannot find the perfect mate, why they can’t make a relationship succeed, yet they give so little time to finding themselves first.

In order for us to have a truly loving relationship, we first need to love ourselves. So many relationships are entered into through lack, hoping the other person will fulfil our desire to be happy, to fill our needs in confidence, security and love.

Some even expect their partners to live their life for them but this goes against the reason we have this life experience. As the creators of our OWN reality, we are here to create our experience, not others. We are not here to live other people’s lives for them, nor be forced to ‘conform’ within a relationship to what the other person wants.

Until we each become totally in alignment with whom we really are, relationships will always be attracted from lack.

To find completeness in you, understanding that it is not about loving others to be loved, it is about loving yourself, accepting that you are a magnificent, powerful, loving being. That you are not whole through being a ‘part’ with someone else; but that you are whole because you are all parts to you.

So many people go into relationships to find themselves and yet they end up losing themselves, their identity to the pleasing of the other person.

Give yourself time to find YOU, get your vibration, energy up to speed and in alignment. Look at all the things you have achieved as you, be aware of all the experiences you want to have and seek to attract the energy in a person that allows you to be who you are.

Relationships should be a wondrous journey two people have together but for themselves, by keeping their identity, individuality and reality and allowing the partner theirs, by embarking on the life experiences together and allowing each other to grow individually will allow the growth and harmony of the relationship.

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Be Careful What You Think About!

That isn’t to say you must watch and monitor every thought that comes into your head (though for specific manifestations, this could be useful!) but start becoming consciously aware of what you are thinking.

How often have you been thinking?

‘I don’t understand . . .’

‘I don’t want . . .’

‘I’m frustrated that . . .’

‘I hate my . . .’

‘I can’t do that . . .’

‘I’m stressed out . . .’

‘I’m worried that . . .’

‘I should be able to . . . but I can’t . . .’

‘Why does this always happen to me?’

The Law of Attraction is very literal and only targets your actual thoughts and emotions, so when you say ‘Why are bad things happening to me?’ the Universe hears ‘bad things’ and gives you more of it, if you think ‘ I got no money coming in’ the Universe gives you ‘no money’. Can you see a pattern emerging?

In all the studies in Quantum Physics some amazing findings have come to light. In the study of Quantum Particles (these are the smallest known observable units of matter) scientists found that the results mirrored the thoughts of the person conducting the experiment! If the scientist ‘predicted’ the particles would behave in a certain way, they did but when they ran the same experiment and ‘predicted’ the particles would behave in another way…they did. The particles were not reacting to the environment of the experiment but to the THOUGHT pattern of the scientists.

As we are the ‘scientists’ in our own life experiment; how are we DAILY affecting energy particles around us? When we are the creators of our own reality, our world AND our experiences, what thoughts are you going to choose to make the changes and create your success?

Here are some examples of how to change a thought:

“I want to get out of debt” think “I am earning amazing amounts of money”

“I hate my boss” think “I look forward to the appreciation that is coming to me”

“I don’t understand why my partner is so lazy” think “I love it when we work together and get things done”

“I’m stressed about not being good enough at work” think “I always create amazing results in every aspect of my job”

“I’m worried I keep getting sick” think “I experience amazing health and well being daily”

This also applies very much to money. Heard of ‘The rich get richer while the poor get poorer’? Law of Attraction in action! Those in wealth have money, they relax because everything is taken care of and often they think about how to best use their money and hence they attract more money. The poor on the other hand keep in their thoughts the present lack of money which causes a contraction of energy in the worrying and that also attracts more lack into their lives. Staggeringly, 96% of the world’s wealth is being earned by just 1% of the population!

So, what are you thinking right now?

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Choosing you best feeling thought

In order to know your best feeling thought, you first need to be able to understand when you are ‘allowing’ and when you are ‘resisting’.

The happier you are the more you allow of who you really are and what you really want to be attracted to you. The unhappier you are, the more you are resisting attracting what you really want and who you really are, on top of that you end up attracting all the events and people you do not want in your experience!

So, in order to be allowing what you have been asking for you need to be letting in the good feelings, the natural well being and the stuff that makes you happy.

It sometimes confuses people when you mention ‘to allow’ and they imagine this to mean, just accepting and putting up with what is not wanted. This is wrong! Allowing is finding the things that feel good by finding the thoughts that feel good and focusing your attention on those until they become the dominant thoughts in your mind, they become your best feeling thoughts.

As you learn to identify who and what allows you to have and maintain those good feeling thoughts, you might find that there are those who have come into your experience before or those you ‘let’ stay in your experience, who will in fact not be causing you good feeling thoughts because their values are not aligned to yours. When this happens and you maintain your best feeling thoughts, you will find gradually those people drift from your experience because they are not a vibrational match to your feelings.

Then you begin to see how much you really are the creator of your own reality!

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Be True to Yourself

I have tried to live my life with honour and integrity and brought up my children to do the same. It was a natural value for me but I see now in Law of Attraction terms how powerful this can be.

You see, to live with honour and integrity is to live from positive vibrations, to live without honour and integrity is to live from negative or mixed vibrations and as we attract what is in our vibration, we give the Universe clear messages!

Ok, let’s take an example. Once I was cueing in a bank and noticed at my feet £40, I picked it up and for a few lingering seconds ideas went through my mind as to what I could buy with this! But then I realised someone had dropped it and being it was in the bank, had probably taken it out for a specific reason, then I really made myself feel guilty and thought it was for a birthday present of a loved one, oh boy, that was it! I went to the counter and handed it in.

Now, I don’t know if that money ever reached its owner, I don’t know whether it found a new home in the teller’s pocket, what I did know is that I had done the right thing by me.

Years later through my development of Law of Attraction I realised that I was ‘listening’ to my higher vibration and allowing myself to be in alignment. Had I taken the money and spent it, the guilt I would have felt would have thrown me so far out of alignment that much more negative events would have shown up in my experience.

Can you remember a situation that caused you to ‘not feel right’? Have you noticed that when you don’t allow yourself to conduct your affairs with integrity something not wanted always shows up in your experience?

So when you’re dominant intent is to offer a higher vibration to attract all wonderful things in your life, do nothing that will hinder the flow of pure positive energy toward you. Be true to yourself an you  will open the way for receiving everything that will bring you joy and happiness.

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When the Universe Slaps You in the Face!

I like to think that my development of awakening who I am, has been pretty successful over the years. I have certainly had a few challenges along the way, looking after my mother from the age of 14, leaving home at 17, moving from one disastrous relationship to another to bring up 4 children alone.

Hmmm, not your Disney story really! And there’s the thing, WHY does it take for human beings to go through so much pain and suffering to finally ‘get it’? Why, does it take such monumental events for us to re connect to who we really are?  Being that we are here to have a joyous life experience wouldn’t we connect with those joyous events rather than the challenging ones?

The reason for the contemplation has been because of a series of events that happened to me recently, where I realised the Universe or Source Energy or God, whatever you want to call ‘all’, was slapping me in the face and I wasn’t listening! Don’t get me wrong, I find development a continuous process, I still feel like a novice in the grand scheme of things and when I don’t manifest what I have been putting out, shows me there is still work to do.

In reality, contracts dried up, the income dried up so I couldn’t move forward on anything, the bills started mounting up, the car was repossessed…what a great job I did of that manifesting!

It shook me I can say, as I ‘thought’ I had it all figured out, be happy, appreciate, affirm your intentions, learn to let go of resistance…Nope the Universe wasn’t yielding, so obviously I was doing something wrong.

This happened again recently…but on a much smaller scale, thankfully but again…slap! The Universe lets me see I have to keep learning.

I was going to an event in London, a seminar that offered to be valuable to getting more media exposure and leads for your business. Anyway, this event was quite far away for me, so I checked the travel and found I could get a coach from a nearby town (bear in mind I live in a sleepy Surrey Village!) great! Going to be a straight forward journey.

So 6am I’m up and on my way, get to the coach stop and wait, ‘yes’ I said to myself, ‘I’ve made good time, will get there in plenty of time’. 30 minutes later, starting to find my toes going numb, I realise the coach wasn’t going to show! Not to be deterred, I walked to the nearest station and went to book a ticket…the tube station had been closed for repairs at a weekend! 2 BUSES, 2 TRAINS later I finally arrived at the event!

Even then, it didn’t register all this challenge to get there, nope I did it, I succeeded. I met some friends and thought no more of it.

As I went through the day listening to speaker after speaker, realising that actually they were not so much offering helpful advice but rather being Vampires under cover, with the end goal of selling their own programmes and advising people to get into debt to do it.

I actually became physically ill, my energy drained.. but again, I’m sitting there thinking, ‘I’m never going to make this work, I can’t get all these strategies figured out on my own’ I had brought on my first cold in over 11years!

I left the event, feeling like crap, went to the hotel. I was cold, hungry, fed up…yes me; the most positive person on this planet was fed up!

I asked the Universe what was going on, why was this feeling so bad.

I crawled into bed and went to sleep. By 5am I was awake, feeling bad? If I’m feeling bad, then I’m not in alignment, something about this is not right. Yeah, you guessed it and then came the slap! I packed my bags and battled my way back through the trains and buses and finally arrived home.

It took me a good couple of days to get back into alignment after that but the one thing that came to me, the ‘light bulb’ moment.

Don’t offer prayers to God, Source energy, the Universe of begging and help as all you get is more of lack coming your way. We are all individual parts of the Universe, parts of the whole, we are god, we are Source energy and we are the Universe…we are talking to ourselves!

Instead, if you are going to offer prayer, conversation, whatever you choose to call it… offer GRATITUDE. Gratitude for all that you desire in your thoughts, as if the Universe has already delivered. We have already manifested it in thought, it is done! We are creators, so everything we desire MUST be in the NOW and all we need to do is be grateful and appreciate that we have it all…so simple, yet we so often forget….

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What is the Measure of Your Success?

Achieving anything that you desire must be considered success, whether it is a trophy at school sports, money, relationships, or a fulfilling career. Now, if you will let your standard of success be your achievement of joy rather than material things, everything else will fall easily into place. It is in the finding of joy, you are finding vibrational alignment with the resources of the Universe.

While you are feeling joy, you will never be in the state of not wanting of unaligned vibration. You cannot feel joy if you are focusing upon something not wanted, or the lack of something and only the lack in your own thoughts and vibration can keep you from the things you desire.

So many of you spend most of your life seeking a set of rules against which can be measured your life experience, looking outside of ‘yourself’ for those who will tell you what is right or wrong, allowing others to press their version of reality onto yours, when all along you just have within you a Guidance System that is so sophisticated, so intricate, so precise, and readily available to attract all that is right for you.

It is your Emotional Guidance System, and by reaching for the best-feeling thought that you can find right now from wherever you are, by paying attention to your guidance from within, you will allow your Broader Perspective to help you move in the direction of the things that you truly want.Start being aware of the contrast that appear in your reality, consciously be aware of the way you feel and making sure your thoughts are directed towards feeling better and better. In doing this you will be aligning your conscious thoughts to your ‘source energy’ and you will begin to be aware that the synchronicity of what you are attracting and that this now becomes the life experience you set out to have, when you came into this physical body.

From our Nonphysical vantage point, we have understood the eternally evolving nature of the Human Being, we understood the nature of our magnificent guidance system and how, with practice, we can see this world as our ‘Inner Being’ sees it. Understanding the powerful Universal Law and the fairness and accuracy with which it responds to the free will of all creators.

By always aiming for the best-feeling thought you can find, you reconnect with that perspective, and shiver with exhilaration as you reconnect with your true purpose, with your zest for life—and with You!

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Make the Best out of Every Situation!

What is it you are wanting? How are you enjoying the development of your desires? that fresh feeling, of a new desire just sprouting. The awareness that there is something more you are move toward, even before it is manifested?

When you coming to a confident answer of yes, this is a most significant thing for you, it is when you have reached the place where a new, seedling desire feels totally inspiring to you, then you have completely reconnected with who you really are.
When there is something that you desire that has not yet manifested, you can’t yet see the path in which it will manifest and you are discouraged – then you are forgetting that you are an energy being and that we never get it done. It’s the destination not the journey.

But when there is a new, seedling desire, instead of torturing you with its lack, instead let it call you with its idea – then you are Source Energy, physically embodied, and on track.
So often, you feel frustration in unachievement of something, as if once it manifests, then everything will be better but you need to remember that as each desire is fulfilled, more seedlings are sprouting in its place.
Once you finally relax and accept that you are connected, that we never get it done but become satisfied with ‘what is’, while you are still loving to reach for more, now you are in the perfect vibrational alignment to allow continuous fulfilment of evolving new ideas.                                                                                                                                                                                               

‘That which is like unto itself is drawn’ If you stand in an awareness that you don’t have enough money, you talk about it, you feel around it, then you keep a continuing vibration of not enough money, even though you’re asking for more, and even though you may be offering action which should bring more–more cannot come because it is vibrationally different from the vibration that you are offering.

Being in an attitude of appreciation and satisfaction for ‘what is’ while you excitedly anticipate the evolving of ‘what is’ – you are in the perfect vibrational energy.
How can you keep it coming? Optimism, Eagerness, Happiness, Joy and Love will bring on so much – Pessimism, Disappointment, Discouragement, Anger and Depression keep you in lack, keep it from coming to you. Emotions are your indicators of how you feel and whether you are in a place of lack or allowing.

Use your emotions to ‘feel’ your way to the best in every situation and you will manifest everything to you.

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